Am I Black Enough For Ya!

Today I observed something that is not foreign to me, but has my mind in a whirlwind!
My children had a little concert this afternoon. Both play the piano and my son also plays the recorder. As each child stepped up to play their little songs, I noticed that some of the older students would fake sneeze or call out something stupid while the parents were clapping in between. I took it as they didn't want to be here and they were bored. But by the 7th kid, I had had enough of their childish ways and so did some of the other parents.
I also had an epiphany while sitting there. This is the start of the crabs in a barrel syndrome that has plagued black people for generations. When we speak correctly and use proper grammar, some of us are teased and made fun of and even accused of not being black! I don't know why, but I was pretty stunned to figure out that I have to teach my children, not only to look out for bullying, but to look out for this specific type of bullying. Bullying because they are smart, and they do use their manners. Not bending to peer pressure to "dumb it down" or be as stupid as you possibly can just to fit in.
While I know this next statement might seem racist, In all my years on earth I've only experienced this issue among black people and for the life of me I could never understand why that is.
Today I am lucky enough to be married and run a successful business. In the business community, we uplift each other because the end result is to network and build collaborations. In our own culture and as a black woman, I see the opposite on a daily and I'm wondering when this insanity is going to end!
We strive everyday to send our children to school so they can have a good education for their future, but everything around them is telling them that this is not so. You cannot express your good education and manners in the streets for fear of getting bullied, or worse, beaten up cause you are the smart kid! Yet, we also celebrate these children, giving them a pat on the back and praises for their good grades, but don't let them know that out there! Keep your mouth shut, or use your slang if you want to survive and be considered cool.
I don't know how in the hell I'm going to explain to my kids that they need a dual personality to deal with his friends and one to deal with his education. I don't want to have to explain that to my children! What I want is to praise them for their good works and encourage them to do better. Not give them a history lesson on why we have to act, talk, and conduct ourselves different ways among different people, especially our OWN people!.
When are we as parents going to stop playing this game and recognize that our children need our help and that we are educating them to make a better future. We are not going to be able to have a better future if they are all out making a fool of themselves on the surface, but deep down their geniuses.
I was fortunate enough to go to a school that celebrated differences and encouraged deep thought and conversation in a diverse setting. My children may not be so lucky depending on whats available as they grow older.
All I want to know, is when is it going to be cool or fashionable to have the courage to be yourself despite the ignorance of the crabs that are raising their crablings to be outwardly hateful and inwardly intelligent?

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